其實你要做的事就是稍微偏離「自我」的要求，那即是出離。例如，你通常在咖啡中加兩塊糖，但是你知道自己也許明天，甚或下一刻就會死去，可能沒有機會喝一口咖啡；如果同事不小心在你的咖啡中加了四塊糖，你會覺得沒有什麼大不了的，你會真心誠意地說：「沒關係！」心中也這樣想。你並不是希望別人認為你是個好人，只不過你不認為這是生命中的大事。

當你到達這種「它沒有什麼大不了」的階段，就已經具備出離心了。那表示出離了生活中「每件事情都很嚴重」的層面。

In fact, what you need to do is slightly off from "oneself" requirement, that is Renunciation. For example, normally you will add two pieces of sugar into your cup of coffee. But as you realize, you may die tomorrow, or just next moment, and couldn't have chance to drink any coffee; if your colleagues add four pieces of sugar into your coffee accidentally, you might think it doesn't matter at all. You will say sincerely to him, "It's alright" and your heart feel the same way too. It's doesn't mean you are pretending you are a good person, but don't think that is a big deal indeed.

When you reach the stage of "It is not a big deal", you have some kind of renunciation. That also means, you had reach the level of renunciation from "taking everything very serious" in your life.

~ Dzongsar Khyentse Rinpoche 宗薩欽哲仁波切