男女相戀時海誓山盟，愛到至深至切時甚至可以為對方犧牲生命。我們一般認為的愛情定義，就是希望對方能快樂。奇怪的是，當其中一人另有新歡時，大多數的人都不會誠心獻上祝福，而是不計一切代價想拆散對方挽回頹勢。如果為了愛一個人，連最寶貴的生命都可以不要時，當對方找到另一個可以給他更多快樂的人，我們為什麼要生氣、憤怒，甚至不惜兩敗俱傷呢？這樣說，並不是要給負心的人藉口，而是希望大家能真切反省自己口口聲聲說的「愛」是什麼？


When men and women fell in love with each other so deeply, they will even sacrifice their lives for each other. Generally we believe the definition of love is to hope that the one we love can be happy. The strange thing is, when one of them meet someone new, most of the people won't give their blessing sincerly, but want to break others relationship and change the failure situation of oneself at all cost. If love a person, even the most precious life we can give up, but then why when the other side found someone who can give him/her more happiness, we are so angry, upset and even at all cost to hurt each other? This is not giving an excuse for the person who breaks others heart and betray the relationship, but to hope that we can really think about what we have been talking about "love", what is the meaning of "love" that we kept saying?


~ 宗薩欽哲仁波切 Dzongsar Khyentse Rinpoche