譬如說，你已經有一個男朋友或女朋友或妻子或丈夫，如果你已經有伴侶，我認為重要的是要記住在佛教中整個思想，特別是在大乘佛教的核心目的是給予一切有情眾生解脫。基本上，解脫意味著自由。很多時候，給予所謂一切有情眾生自由，有點像建造一個通往天空的梯子，這幾乎是抽象的，一切有情眾生？我的鄰居.... 有可能，可能有幾百個。也許，但是一切有情眾生有點多，這有點抽象。

但是即使我們也許不能解脫和給予一切有情眾生自由，至少我們能夠給予自己伴侶、丈夫或妻子解脫和自由，作為一個開始。而我必須說，這是非常實際的建議。很多時候，當我們擁有感情（一段關係），基本上是在勒死對方。你們知道嘛，那就是令對方窒息。那不是一段感情。你應該真正給對方自由，給他\她空間、自由，我認為這是重要的。

Let's say you are already have a boy friend or girlfriend or wife or husband, if you already have a partner, I think it's important to remember in Buddhism, the whole idea, especially in Mahayana Buddhism the whole idea, the core purpose of practicing Mahayana Buddhism is to give liberation to all sentient beings. Liberation means freedom basically and many times giving freedom to so-called all sentient beings is a bit like building a ladder to the sky, it's almost abstract. All sentient beings, may be neighborhood ... yes, may be like few hundred, may be, but all sentient beings that bit too much. You know, it's like

 abstract.

But even though one may not able to liberate and give freedom to all sentient beings, we can at least start with giving liberate and freedom to one's own partner, husband and wife, and that's very practical advice, I must say. Many times when we having relationship, it's basically strangling each other, you know, like choking each others. And that is not a relationship, you should really give freedom to each other, give him/her freedom, give space, I think that is important.

〜 宗薩欽哲仁波切 Dzongsar Khyentse Rinpoche